Sometimes a relationship might seem a bit like a roller coaster. Before you know it, you're traveling down the road while potentially laughing, yelling, and shedding tears all at once. You get in, fasten your seatbelt, and hold on for the ride. It might be hard to control the ups and downs in your relationship.You can start to miss the desire and excitement from the beginning of your relationship. Or you can imagine yourself to be in a hole so deep that you would never again see sunlight.
The following advice can help you manage the ups and downs in your relationship:
1. Keep in mind that this too shall pass.
To be reminded that everything in life is ultimately fluctuating and fragile is a bittersweet realization. But being conscious of this might help you gain perspective. Being joyful serves as a reminder to enjoy and live in the present. It serves as a reminder that difficult times don't last forever no matter what you may be feeling at the moment.
2. Be truthful about where you stand.
The first step in repairing your relationship is admitting that you are going through a difficult time. It might be intriguing to pretend to be happy in the hopes that your emotions will pass, but doing this is wrong. Explain your feelings to your partner to start the conversation. Saying something like, "I feel like you haven't been as attracted to me lately," or "I'm concerned that we aren't on the same page about our future," are good examples. Because the problem was always real to begin with, naming it does not make it more real. The foundation for communication, understanding, and working together on a solution is openness and transparency.
3. Accept the dull.
Even when things are "just okay," knowing that you love and want to remain with your partner is a gift to preserve. Recognize that feeling like you're just going through the motions occasionally is entirely acceptable. Sometimes life can feel tiresome or even boring, even with your love at your side. The low parts in life and in your relationship only increase the joy of the bright points.
*Relationships should seem more like drifting along a river on a summer afternoon than like riding a roller coaster; they should make you feel secure, comfortable, loved, and happy.
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