6/25/23
Hello readers,
I want to talk about the difficulty of embracing reality nowadays.
What exactly does it mean to accept your reality? You're saying that you're content and maybe even happy with the way things are in at this point in your life. It implies that you are aware of who, where, and what you are. It indicates that you are aware that only you have the power to bring about your happiness.
In contrast to the reality that is immediately in front of us, we frequently cling to the notion of things and people. I battled with this for years. I listened to what others were saying to me or demonstrating to me instead of falling in love with the concept or potential I saw in them. Things didn't start to change until I paid attention to what other people were saying, took a hard look at my circumstances, and eventually decided that I needed more for myself. Only you can take the initial step toward wanting better for you. Someone else can talk to you about a topic until they are blue in the face but things won't change until you do. I completely understand that you occasionally don't want to face reality, neither do I sometimes. We all have reasons why we feel the need to run away from our problems or ignore some aspects of our lives. Doing this, though, robs you of time you cannot get back while you are avoiding facing your truth. Since time is the single thing that cannot be changed, we must make good use of it. I believe that when we avoid dealing with our reality, we begin to rely on that avoidance use it as a coping technique, which is unhealthy. We put on a "everything's okay" front, but we know in our hearts that things are not as they seem.
When we elevate things (such as time) or people, we give them permission to rule over our lives. It can be risky to form unhealthy emotional bonds and attachments to toxic people. One of my main issues is this: It gets exciting for me when I surround myself with toxic individuals. The reason for this excitement is that I begin to emulate what I see and feel. My toxicixity comes out in rainbows, but when the "fun" is over, it leaves me depressed. Here's an example, have you ever met someone for the first time who instantly captures your interest? Someone who gives the impression of your true self or who makes you feel secure with them. At the same, they are someone who is so unpredictable that you find yourself always attempting to appease them and continuously go above and beyond to please them. Someone you end up pleading with to remain in your life so they can fill the gap or emptiness you are currently feeling. They exploit your vulnerabilities to the point that they become that vulnerability themselves. You can no longer imagine your life without them. It takes a lot of time and insight to break out from poisonous attachment patterns of a toxic relationship. If we never take the time to fall in love with ourselves, we frequently slip into back into those unhealthy routines. You can combat this though, try swallowing a spoonful of radical self-acceptance followed by a scoop of reality if you really want to shake off your toxic relationship routines.
Holding on to unhealthy attachments does nothing but prevent us from experiencing true joy and satisfaction in life. When we stick with bad patterns, we play a vicious game of emotional rummy with ourselves that leaves us defeated and trapped in situations and relationships that cause more harm than good.
One thing I'm still learning today is, when things break apart, it presents opportunity for me to improve and make significant changes in my life. It gives me the ability to represent who I actually am. It reminds me that I must take responsibility for my actions and face my own reality. The same thing can be applied to you. You need to spend some time getting to know yourself and the scars that keep you bound, ill, and afraid if you really want to break free from your toxic ties. Inhale deeply and acknowledge that something is wrong. Reestablish relationships with the people who matter, and don't hesitate to seek assistance when you require it. It is possible to recover from a toxic relationship, but it requires time and healing that only you can access.
Don't put off facing reality until you're completely broken. Genuine joy and tranquility originate inside us and only we can create and harness it for ourselves. Spend some time concentrating on what you need and what is in front of you rather than on the potential for your enjoyment. Only you have the power to keep you in a rut. Before it's too late, start living your life for yourself.
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